A reference for your pocket
The Five Tests
at a Glance
Before acting in the name of love, pause and ask:
- I
Consent
Is this care invited? Can they say no without punishment, withdrawal, or threat?
- II
Dignity
Does this protect their personhood, or erase who they are for their own good?
- III
Humility
Can I admit I might be wrong? Am I willing to listen, learn, and be changed?
- IV
Harm
If fear, shame, or injury is occurring, will I stop, even if I am convinced I am right?
- V
Accountability
If I cause harm, do I repair, or justify myself through intention, belief, or authority?
If it fails consent, dignity, or harm, it is not Agape. Full stop.
From the Unraveling Change series by Jay Pierce
Print it on half a sheet and keep it in a wallet or a journal. Or save the image to your phone and make it your lock screen.
